Comments on: Dark Is Just a Style

By: PsychicDonut

PsychicDonut — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 19:33:54 +0000

I am all about self-fulfilling prophecy!

By: Heathecliffe

Heathecliffe — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 19:20:07 +0000

It seems to be getting items #2 and #3 together that poses the most trouble for me. But I do have a more positive attitude of late.

I’m glad I saw that psychic – I know all my worrying about this is counterproductive so replacing that with a positive story is a smart move for me. Regardless, I still hope she is right

By: PsychicDonut

PsychicDonut — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 06:40:23 +0000

Oh dear, these are so rudimentary that it baffles me that we even need to list them. If you do think about them, they are actually not THAT hard!

Don’t be so hard on yourself, girl. Remember the psychic!

By: Heathecliffe

Heathecliffe — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 01:34:02 +0000

The 5 hallmarks of a good relationship:
1. Shared Values
2. Mutual Commitment to the Relationship
3. Sexual Connection
4. Emotional Connection
5. Intellectual Connection
Just something I read and wanted to share. (I is learning!) Of course, I’ve always known these things to some extent. They seem so simple, and yet I can’t imagine finding a person who covers all of these qualifications!

By: PsychicDonut

PsychicDonut — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 23:32:39 +0000

Ha, but see how Andrew clearly noted that there is an expectation/negative anticipation most “healthy” people have with the dark image.

I think this is why communication is so important. One will know if the person is “dark” in their being or not.

By: Heathecliffe

Heathecliffe — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 22:26:03 +0000

Interesting … I have been trying to give off a ‘dark’ vibe for years to attract ‘dark’ men because that’s what turns me on. As it turns out I just attract weirdos, mental cases, geeks, losers, confirmed bachelors, and men who clearly only want to buy into the fantasy image of myself that I am portraying online. It is in my innocence that I choose not to see the ‘dark’ as potentially coming from a bad place, which often it does. That is why I could never deal with the so-called Goth scene. Physically I could pull off the look, visually I often was attracted to the people, ideologically I could relate to the dreariness and loved the music, but I never ‘belonged’ in my heart or in my mind with the other ‘dark’ folk. I didn’t get them and I assumed they didn’t get me. I have been dealing with my whole association with this phenomenon in therapy – I feel it is part of me and yet it is also leading to my detriment in the love department. Owning up to the fact that if I continue to insist on meeting my ‘dark’ match I may never find love is very, very difficult for me. It’s like giving up part of my soul.

All I can say is – you are super lucky to have found another ‘darkling’ who isn’t all jacked up in the head!